On Doing Something.

A common thread that often comes up with conversations with friends my age is, well what we would like to call the ‘Quarter-Life Crisis’.

I’ve blogged about it before a few years back now and I guess it’s a lot more common that I thought, I’m not the only one that feels this way.

I guess when you hit the later half of your twenties, it suddenly dawns upon you that you’re really not that young anymore, and more scarily, some of your youthful dreams are starting to fade before you have any chance of living them.

You come to the realisation that after all these years of education and preparation for this great and wonderful life, kinda never came.

You end up at somewhere you don’t really want to be, doing something you don’t really want to do, week after week.

Sounds scary doesn’t it?

The scarier part that for a lot us, it’s true.

I came back from the UK 4 months ago and found myself after having such a wonderful adventure, to be exactly where I don’t want to be.

Coming down from a high, I struggled with who I was and what I am going to be doing for the rest of my life.

And then the societal pressures start to come in, looking around, you start to get affected by everyone else’s thinking.

A need to get a job that pays, need to conform to my parent’s thinking, need to settle down, need to save up enough money to buy a ridiculously priced house.

It starts to get a little confusing, a little depressing, and then the thoughts of perhaps giving in.

But no.

Don’t.

Because it’s your life, and there’s always a choice.

I’ve always loved the line from a Curious Case of Benjamin Button, it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. 

But form personal experience, I know it can be a lot harder than it seems.

So, where do we go from here? How do we make sure the last few years of 20s be many times more awesome than the first few?

It’s time to take a bit of self-responsibility.

Saw this brilliant old school video the other day, I guess being self-respobsible is not that different than being self-reliant.

As seen from this article http://artofmanliness.com/2013/01/28/12-vintage-instructional-films-worth-watching/ 

Assume Responsibility – This is your life. Be responsible for it.

You are likely to be a free man, with free will to make decisions about your everyday life. If you’re not at a place you want to be, realise it’s your own fault for not being there or making an attempt to get there.

If you’ve failed in the past, realise that it was largely your own responsibility for your failure. Pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, don’t make the same mistakes again.

You and only you are responsible for yourself, stop blaming your parents, your circumstances or your surroundings.

Take charge of your own life and make exactly what you want out of it.

Be Informed – Knowledge is power.

In the age of the Internet, there really isn’t much of an excuse not to be informed.

If you need to know something or find out how something is done, go and Google it.

If you can’t find it or need more knowledge, find someone who has already done it and go out there and ask.

Don’t expect the world to come to you (even though with the internet it already largely has).

Leverage on information to create your destiny.

Know Where You’re Going Without a goal, you can’t score. 

What’s the point of finding out which road to go if you yourself do not have a good idea of where you are going?

Take some time out to really think about what you want to do with your life.

This is probably going to be one of the most important thing to do, because if you don’t, you’ll just spend your entire life looking for something that you don’t know what is (highly unlikely you’ll be able to find what you don’t know what you’re looking for).

Make Your Own Decisions – Decide.

It’s not that hard.

Take responsibilities to make your own decision.

Small exercise, when someone asks you, what you want to eat? Make a decision and go for it, rather than answering ‘I’ll have whatever you’re ok with.’

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So, time to actually f*cking do something before I get too old to do it.

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